Rant moment....here are a few things that seriously piss me off about ppl and kids.
Your children are children...not your friend: I have often heard ppl say their children (who are under 18yrs old) are their "best friends." No, they are your children. Your child should not have to fulfill your need for social interaction. They should only have to fulfill one thing in their life...being kids. If you have no friends...that is your issue not theirs. Deal with it. Assess why you have no friends and make the necessary adjustments, but do not pin that obligation on your child. In other words, grow up.
Your children are still children...not your "love": Children love their parents unconditionally (even when they do not deserve it) and give that love freely. While I agree children are one of the loves of any parent's life, it absolutely drives me bonkers when ppl (mostly girls) say their children are the loves of their lives especially when they have just been dumped by baby daddy/last lover. Your children should not have to fulfill your need for love. If you can't find love or get love, that is your problem. Not your child. Figure out your issues and deal w/ them but do not pin your need for love on your kids. You are suppose to shower them with love because that is your job, not the other way around. So in other words, grow up.
Your children are children...not bargaining chips or dollar signs: Children are not cash cows or way for you to hold your baby daddy/mama/most recent lover. Just because a guy/girl has sex with you or "in a relationship" with you does not mean they actually love you and want to be with you. I know many guys and girls who stay with their significant other because of the child. And yes the other person uses this to their advantage which is just plain wrong. If someone is forced to stay in the relationship because of a child, guarantee you they don't like you and will resent you. That unhappiness filters into everything and the child can see the unhappiness, anger, resentment and sometimes, out right hate for the other person. You aren't helping the child but simply damaging them. And people who get pregnant and have kids simply because it will bring them more money especially due to child support are beyond stupid and ridiculous. Children will not save your marriage/relationship and they are not your "money makers." Grow up and realize that the relationship is over and move on. Also find some other way to get money....oh like get a JOB!
Another thing that seriously ticks me off: Buying gifts for your kids (whether that be for their b-day, Christmas, Easter, etc.) and then taking the gift away and selling it a month or so (or even less than a month) later (and making them watch their stuff get sold) simply because you couldn't afford it in the first place. If you can't afford it, don't get it. Otherwise if you do get it, taking something away of yours and sell it, not your kids' brand new toys. Electronics sell way better than toys anyway! I would rather sell off all my expensive electronics before I would ever take away any of my children's toys especially the new ones. Hell I would sell my most precious items before I would ever take away a toy that was a gift to them. A kid should never have to wonder when their new toys or any of their toys for that matter are going to be taken away from them to be sold (and I am not talking about the non-played with toys). How cruel can you get?! If your finances don't allow for you to buy your child a gift, then save up until you can. Or get your crap together so you can i.e. Get A JOB!!! Pawn that computer you have so you can get them something if you must, but don't ever buy something for your child and then take it away to be sold. So in other words, grow up and be the adult. Sell your crap first and don't leave your child wanting for something or wondering why their toys have to be sold while you continue to buy a bunch of crap for yourself or play on your computer.
So to conclude my lil rant: Children are freaking children. They are not bargaining chips, cash cows, your bff, or the "love of your life" simply because you got dumped. Grow up and realize these things. Being a parent is about sacrifice. Meaning the adult sacrifices things for their child so their child can have a wonderful life. Not the other way around. Sacrifice the things you have/want/need so your child can have what they have/want/need. But don't ever take something away from them especially a gift, simply because you are too selfish to give up anything you have or to lazy to get a job to pay your bills. So grow up and be adults!!!
